“Tell me about a friend you've lost contact with, who you still think about.”

“Tell me about a child who's been important to you — a niece, nephew, godchild, neighbour's kid, student.”

“Was there a person whose example showed you how to be in a particular role — partner, parent, leader, friend?”

“Tell me about a relative you wish you'd known — a great-grandparent, an ancestor, an aunt who died young.”