“What did you imagine adult life would be when you were starting out — and how did real adult life differ?”

“What was the first time you felt fully responsible for someone else's wellbeing?”

“Was there a year in your thirties when your work and your life properly clicked together?”

“If your younger self could see you at the end of this chapter — early forties, say, settled or unsettled — what do you think they'd be most surprised by?”