“Of all the roles you've played — parent, partner, friend, worker, carer, leader — which one feels most like *you*?”

“Was there a year in midlife when you ran on too little sleep?”

“If you became a parent, what kind of parent did you turn out to be — at school gates, at the kitchen table, on a hard day?”

“Was there a midlife illness — yours, or someone close to you — that changed your sense of time?”