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Chapter 1 of 10

Roots & beginnings

the world you were born into, before you knew anything else.

  1. № 01

    What's the earliest memory you can still reach back to?

  2. № 02

    What did your childhood home sound like at dinner?

  3. № 03

    What did your childhood home smell like when you walked in?

  4. № 04

    Where in your childhood home did you most like to be alone?

  5. № 05

    Describe the street, lane, or landscape where you grew up.

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    What was a typical Sunday like when you were a child?

  7. № 07

    Who in your family was known for telling the same story over and over?

  8. № 08

    Was there a family member everyone has a story about — the character, the rogue, the kindly one?

  9. № 09

    What did your parents (or whoever raised you) do for work?

  10. № 10

    What did money look like in your childhood — present, absent, talked about, never talked about?

  11. № 11

    What was your relationship with your grandparents — if you knew them?

  12. № 12

    Who was your first best friend?

  13. № 13

    What was your first school like on the first day?

  14. № 14

    What was a punishment in your house — and what was a reward?

  15. № 15

    Was there a teacher, in any of your early years, whose attention made a difference?

  16. № 16

    What were you afraid of as a child?

  17. № 17

    What did your family do — or not do — at Christmas, Eid, Diwali, Hanukkah, or whichever holiday loomed largest?

  18. № 18

    What was the family rule no one ever wrote down but everyone knew?

  19. № 19

    What's a meal from childhood you still think about?

  20. № 20

    Did you have a pet as a child, and what did they teach you?

  21. № 21

    What did Saturday mornings look like in your house?

  22. № 22

    Was there a place — not your own home — that felt magical to you as a child?

  23. № 23

    Was there a moment in childhood when you saw your parents as separate people, not just your parents?

  24. № 24

    What did you read, watch, or listen to over and over as a child?

  25. № 25

    Was there a sibling or close cousin who you measured yourself against?

  26. № 26

    What story did your family tell about *you* as a child?

  27. № 27

    What did a typical row in your house sound like?

  28. № 28

    Was there an illness, injury, or scare in your family that everyone remembers?

  29. № 29

    What was a chore or responsibility you were given young, and how did you feel about it?

  30. № 30

    If you could send a single message back to the child you were — small, specific, kind — what would it be?

  31. № 31

    What was the climate of your family, growing up — warm, formal, chaotic, watchful, something else?

  32. № 32

    What were the deepest lessons your family taught you about being a person — said or unsaid?