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Chapter 2 of 10

Coming of age

becoming yourself — the first jobs, the first loves, the first hard choices.

  1. № 01

    “When did you first feel like a grown-up — really, not for show?”

  2. № 02

    “What were you like as a teenager — honestly?”

  3. № 03

    “What was the first thing you did, as a teenager, that your parents would have disapproved of if they'd known?”

  4. № 04

    “Tell me about your first real friendship — the one outside the family.”

  5. № 05

    “Who did you have your first big crush on?”

  6. № 06

    “When did you first fall in love, or think you had?”

  7. № 07

    “Was there a moment in your teens when your parents got something badly wrong?”

  8. № 08

    “What did you want to be when you grew up — at thirteen, at sixteen, at twenty?”

  9. № 09

    “Was there a subject at school where you came alive?”

  10. № 10

    “Was there a subject at school you dreaded?”

  11. № 11

    “What did you do on a Saturday night at seventeen?”

  12. № 12

    “What was the first big argument you remember having with a parent or guardian?”

  13. № 13

    “Was there a friend in your teens who you ended up losing — through drift, fight, distance, or death?”

  14. № 14

    “When did you first realise that the adults around you didn't have all the answers?”

  15. № 15

    “What music defined your teens?”

  16. № 16

    “What did you spend your first earnings on?”

  17. № 17

    “When did you first leave home — for a night, a week, properly?”

  18. № 18

    “Was there a moment in your teens when you stood up to a group of friends?”

  19. № 19

    “Did you have a mentor in your late teens or early twenties — not necessarily called that?”

  20. № 20

    “What did you most want to escape, as a teenager?”

  21. № 21

    “Was there a book, film, or piece of music that changed how you saw the world during this time?”

  22. № 22

    “When did your sense of fashion or style first feel like yours, not someone else's?”

  23. № 23

    “Was there a teacher who lit a path you ended up walking down?”

  24. № 24

    “Tell me about the first time you really got drunk, or made another big mistake.”

  25. № 25

    “Was there a moment in your teens when you felt seen, properly, by someone outside the family?”

  26. № 26

    “What did you believe at eighteen that you no longer believe?”

  27. № 27

    “Was there a place — not your home — where you felt most yourself in your teens?”

  28. № 28

    “Did you go to university, college, or training — or skip it?”

  29. № 29

    “What's the biggest piece of advice you wish someone had given you at twenty?”

  30. № 30

    “When did you stop thinking of your parents as parents and start seeing them as flawed adults?”